Happy Saturday everyone. After a very frustrating morning during which I wanted to throw the computer at the wall I’ve taken a few minutes breathing space to try to address this weeks photo challenge of perspective.
I love the design of this shade. I spent more money on it than I’ve ever done simply because I fell in love with it. I tried photographing it with the light off but it looked dull. So what do you think?
I sometimes find myself in social situations where I almost have to zip my mouth closed and sit on my hands.
It’s not a pleasant confession, particularly for a Christian who is called to love everyone, but that’s how it is.
It’s because, in these scenarios, I get so het up with inane things that are said, or the way certain people behave, that I just have to withdraw.
I have to withdraw because if I didn’t I would explode. I would explode verbally and would want to lash out physically.
Let me emphasise that these are isolated incidents. I don’t spend my whole life tightly coiled like a wound spring….
But there are some people I have no choice but to encounter because it’s expected of me. These people really grate on me and bring out the worst in me. I’m sorry if that sounds harsh and mean but that’s how it is. I’m not nice all the time. I can’t possibly be. I can’t sustain it.
I wrote a post recently titled “always be kinder than you feel”. I constantly feel convicted by that. I do try to live by that mantra but I frequently fall short.
I think it’s OK to withdraw sometimes. I think it’s OK to minimise your contact with negative people who drain you and constantly put you down and make snide remarks and always seek to undermine you. It’s healthy for your own esteem.
The actual conscious act of limiting time I have to spend with these people means that when I really do have to interact with them it’s a little easier to bear. I can outwardly be kind and a gracious host even though inwardly my teeth might be set on edge.
It is selfish. I’m very aware of that but it’s also self preservation and occasionally I get to think of what I want and do you know what? That’s OK.
However there is also this option
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As a would be writer and author I am of the opinion that it is necessary to practice all disciplines of writing in order to become successful at my craft.
There is no doubt however that some types of writing are easier to manage than others.
I naturally gravitate toward conversational posts but I like dabbling in poetry and fiction writing. There is a form of escapism in those genres that I don’t feel in others.
Do you think in order to be a published author that you need to excel at all forms of writing? Is it good discipline to write something every day? Or should you only wait till the muse strikes?
What form of writing do you find most difficult?
Is it true that “a writer writes?” or is it not as simple as that? And what is the difference between a published author and a blogger like myself? Is it sheer hard work on their part? Or luck? Or a good agent? Or can anyone be a published author with enough determination ?
Apologies for all the questions. Just thinking out loud!
I cannot believe that we can now watch a TV programme that centres around people watching TV programmes and then records and documents their behaviour.
What depths of reality car crash TV have we sunk too? Sigh….
What bright spark decided to waste the licence payers money on this?
One of my guilty pleasures is watching “housey” programmes. Whether they are about people searching for a new home, trying to sell theirs, doing a complete makeover or searching for a bolt hole in the sun.. I love them all.
There’s something exciting about vicariously sharing other people’s lives, a sneak peek into what makes them tick.
I think I enjoy them more because we are not in a position to buy a house at the moment. Although our home is spacious and beautiful with lots of original features it is rented so other than dressing it and painting the walls there is never much we can do to it.
I regret not being savvy enough to buy a house when we were first married and houses were so much cheaper..
Hindsight is a wonderful thing!
Many of these house programmes feature couples or families with very specific search parameters. They all seem to have a huge checklist of what they want and most people are unable to compromise between what they can afford and the location they’re after.
I’m always surprised when I watch these programmes and people are put off by the previous owners decor etc. It’s as if they have no vision and unless it’s all a magnolia blank canvas they can’t imagine it any other way!
I particularly enjoy watching these shows when the people buying or making over have a big budget financially. They can go for furnishings and fittings I can only dream of.
Of course it’s worth remembering being grateful for what we have though.
A couple of years ago we were living in damp temporary accommodation. We were having to sleep on mattresses on the living room floor because the bedrooms couldn’t be slept in. We’ve come a long way since then!
It’s all change in our household this week. After a 4 year gap I’m going back to a part time job tomorrow. Apart from the usual anxieties about not picking up the job I’m looking forward to some time away from the house and looking forward to having my mind stretched too.
It was a beautiful sunny afternoon so we walked up to pick the children up from school and then home again. I love the Spring and it’s a pleasure walking home in the light as opposed to twilight. I’m looking forward to holidays and brighter times and lots of family quality time. Better than therapy in my case.
As it’s the season of Lent tomorrow and the tradition is to give something up I’ve made the decision to give up bad snacking. It’s drastic but my diet this year has been terrible, I’ve put weight on and I need to kick start a more healthy regime.
So for the next 40 days no chocolate or biscuits or crisps or cake or sweets or fizzy drinks.
I’m in quite a determined mood so I’m pretty sure I can stick to it. My hope is that after the 40 days it will be an ingrained habit I can just carry on with.
So those are my things to look forward to. How about you? Are you giving anything up for Lent?
According to the Department for Work and Pensions “there is no robust evidence that welfare reforms are driving people to rely on food banks”.
I want to tell these people to get their heads out of the ground because they clearly don’t live in the real world.
In the town where we live and in the churches we are involved in people are increasingly reliant on food banks for their weekly food.
Despite being in receipt of benefits claimants are finding that the soaring costs of food and petrol and heating are prohibitive.
Indeed, Oxfam Scotland released a news item today that some people are in the position of having to take food items back to food banks because they don’t have credit on their electric meters to cook their food.
This breaks my heart. Where is our compassion to our fellow man that we close our own doors instead of helping those in need?
The divide between the rich and poor is growing. The schemes the governments are implementing clearly are not working.
I know there will always be some people who will take advantage of the benefits system and refuse to work when they could do so but the majority of people are on benefits as a last resort or to top up their meagre minimum wage earnings.
I wish this government would try surviving on benefits for a week then they might see the difficulties involved.
Food banks exist because they are necessary and not as a luxury. I despair sometimes that we’re headed back to the days of the work houses when parents will have to send their children away because they can’t afford to keep them.
For any who might say they should think of that before they have more than one child well perhaps that is true but the truth is none of us know what may happen in our lives and we are almost all of us only one or two paychecks away from being destitute ourselves.
It should never have to come to a point where a parent has to go without food so their children can eat….
Although I know we would all do that in a heartbeat if necessary.