Have you ever felt alone in a crowd? Have you ever stood on the edge of a group having a conversation trying to pluck up the courage to speak? Have you ever sat and listened to people talk and not really taken in what was being said? Have you ever felt so lonely you felt you would die from it?
If yes, let me encourage you with the knowledge that so have I and so have most people at some time in there lives.
We all crave acceptance. We all want to know we are cared for. We all want to believe that we matter to people. Relationships and friendships with people we can trust are essential in life. They are the spokes in our tyres, the meat in our sandwich and the links in our chain. They are necessary. We were created for companionship. But relationships cost and are a risk. They mean we have to let our guard down if they are to become meaningful and valid.
The Bible speaks about “Koinonia” . This means, communication, fellowship and communion. This is what the church in the book of Acts experienced. “So continuing daily with one accord in the temple and breaking bread from house to house they ate their food with gladness and simplicity of heart”. This is God’s ideal for His bride, the church but is not always an easy thing to establish.
We miss cues. We miss the look in a hurting persons eyes. We overlook the people on the fringes of our groups. We ignore the prompts that would lead to deeper conversations. We, I, get it wrong frequently. I witter on about unimportant things, say things that are better unsaid and don’t say what His Spirit leads me to.
But God is not like that.
You are of infinite value to Him to the point He knows the number of hairs on your head!
Our friendships here on Earth are important and necessary for our existence but they are simply a foreshadowing or precursor to Eternal life. The appetiser before the main meal if that’s not too glib.
Getting back to the voice which you probably thought I’d forgotten! I want to say that your voice counts, your opinion matters. Somebody is desperately interested in what you think and feel, in what is going on in your life. And that person is God.
You may feel unloved, unimportant, undervalued but God sees you. He knows you’re doing your best. He understands you frailties, He knows we are dust. That is why He gave us each other to love and be loved but more importantly why He gave us Jesus. Please believe me when I tell you that you matter to God. He is never too busy to spend time with you, in fact He delights in it.
He desires that Koinonia relationship with you. He gives us people with skin on to inspire and draw alongside us but they were never meant to be a replacement for Him. You only need to look at the relationship Adam and Eve had before the Fall to realise this. He walked with them!
As a young teenager, for a short period, I gave up Christianity. I don’t know why. Perhaps it was too hard. I can’t stress this enough, I COULD NOT GET AWAY FROM HIM. I felt hemmed in, behind and before. As psalm 139 says ” Wherever I went He was already there. CS Lewis has said when he became a Christian “he was the most dejected and reluctant convert in all of England”. He too was pursued, as I was. God pursues us because we matter to Him.
Francis Thompson’s poem “The Hound of Heaven” speaks of being pursued through the days and the years. I am telling you, categorically, you have value, you are important. You have a voice worth listening to. “You are loved more than you will ever know by someone who died to know you” Rom5:8.
Till next time.